Facilitating processes for others means facilitating your process too. Facilitators spend a lot of time preparing material and frameworks for setting up and running effective group processes. They may assemble resources relevant to the focus of their group. They attempt to anticipate some of the problems, concerns, and challenges that may present themselves so that they’ll have responses to some of the anticipated challenges. How do I know this? Well, because I find myself doing it all the time! And I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with it. But, here’s another perspective.
So often as facilitators we encourage our clients to trust in the process that we facilitate in their behalf. But what of our own internal process? What if we were to trust completely in the richness of the moment to moment experience? What if every challenge or problem came pre-packaged with its own solution or right action? What if our awareness of this solution or right action were only apparent when we empty our minds of what we know from the past? What if you are a living reflective instrument? An empty conduit through which group energy is marshaled and evolved? What if this required you to surrender everything you’ve ever known? What are the answers to these questions? Ah, nice try. But sorry. No answers, this is merely a process!
Now if I’m to be real with you. I must sit down here to write this example with nothing in particular in mind. I’m to simply sit here, in front of my monitor, with the intention of providing you with a juicy and relevant example of the aforementioned point. I will sit here now without expectation, with only a clear intention, and a willingness to trust my creative process. And from this place I write:
Imagine yourself in a room full of clients who have entrusted you with the management of a process by which they will take the next major step as an organization. A step upon which may rest the future of their company. A step with huge potential risks and payoffs. You are being paid very well for this. A lot is expected of you. You are serving as the catalyst for a new tomorrow for this group of humble compatriots.
The group is stuck. Their hopes are dimming. They doubt their abilities, their future, and at a time like this, so do you. But you know that the work to be done is not yours. If you chose to make it yours, ownership and sustainability of their dream will be in question. You challenge them to hold their vision clearly, to trust that it will show them the next step, that the struggle they’re up against is the birthing pain of their vision. You challenge them. You are silent. And while fully present, you wait…
What could you do this week to more fully trust your process as a facilitator, as a human being? I’d love to hear from you. Please share your experience in the comments section below.